Saturday, April 26, 2008

一周年

随着越砌越高的文字,越堆越多的心情…
住进城堡已经满一年啦~
幸好,野草长不高,藤蔓蔓延不上
不然城堡就会给“别人”卖掉了……
没有暴风暴雨,没有坏人袭击,
城堡依然牢固地耸立在云朵上…… ^-^
希望…… 城堡快高长大~ 健健康康~

Thursday, April 24, 2008

《那些年,我们一起追的女孩》

去年十二月,我带在身边,带到了袋鼠国。
回来过后,翻过的页数没有再增加过。
昨天今天,把它从新捡起,从新追索文字散发出来的魅力。
我爬文字的速度比乌龟的新陈代谢还慢……
不是一粒粒地爬,却落得如此速度。哈
最终,我还是啃完了! 耶耶……
哼…… 九把刀就是九把刀,真不是盖的!
看完了眼睛是湿湿的,心里是酸酸的……

这本书是九把刀的真实故事,一段开花没结果的故事,一段细水长流的友情,一段永不消逝的青春。

「没有结果的爱情,只要开了花,颜色就是最灿烂的」

我说过了,真实的故事,就最能触动人心。
九把刀的爱情,九把刀的友情,在我心里泛起了涟漪……
把书细细咀嚼完的感觉是,很满足的心情,又带有幽幽的空虚?
或是为柯景腾感到丝丝的遗憾吧……

文字写得真好,这种天赋,我看我只有羡慕的份吧~
我看我爱上九把刀了…… ><

『Argue the Right Way』

Arguments can happen in the healthiest and happiest of relationships. We all have differences of opinions and they are normal in any relationship not just with our partners. Often a good argument can clear the air and help us get issues off our chest but the problems occur when an argument turns hurtful and leaves scars that are difficult to heal. Words do wound so it's imperative that we argue effectively so an argument doesn't spell the end of our partnership.

  1. Stay Calm
    Stay calm. Once you begin to yell or insult the other person, they will stop listening to you. It is of course difficult to remain collected when you feel strongly about something, but it is in your best interest to do so.

  2. Cool Off
    Some may find that staying calm at the heat of an argument impossible, so it's a good idea to have some time out to cool off before taking up the argument again. Though that might seem like a strange idea as walking away from a heated argument is the last thing on anybody's mind but research shows a short break can actually be more productive. However, you should remember not to avoid a confrontation but merely giving yourself and the other party time to cool off enough to think clearly so the disagreement can be resolved properly. John Gottman, a psychologist, explains in
    Psychology Today, "People have an emotional refractory period during which it's hard for them to think clearly. It's important to take a break for at least half hour and settle down - while thinking about something else. Start again when both parties are calmer."

  3. Listen First
    Let the other person speak first. It is human nature to want to be heard first because we tend to get emotional during arguments. We feel like what we have to say is far more important than what the other person has to say. When you let someone speak before you, they are relieved to have gotten their feelings off their chest. When someone is not 'waiting for their turn' they are more likely to listen to you.

  4. Pay Attention
    Pay attention to what they say. Respect the other person's point of view; you do not have to like it, but hear them out. isn't it frustrating when someone is not listening to you? Do not use the time that the other person is speaking to plan your next statement, but instead to actually listen. Who knows, you might actually have a breakthrough and understand the root of the disagreement. After listening, respond in an understanding, compassionate way and apologize if appropriate. Questions such as, "What do you need here?" will do wonders!

  5. Talk About Your Own Feelings
    After listening to the other party patiently, it's then time for you to share about your feelings and needs. If you've acknowledged the other person's feelings at the same time, this won't sound defensive. Tell the other person what you need from them.

  6. Don't Accuse
    When it's your turn to express yourself remember to refrain from becoming accusatory or getting angry, if possible. At times this can be difficult because if we are passionate enough about an issue to engage in an argument about it, emotions are undoubtedly high. The danger is that sometimes when we get angry we may explained in the following pointer.

  7. Don't Say Never and Always
    Because it is usually not true. For example you may want more help around the house so by fighting with him for not doing the dishes, so you say, "You never do the dishes." This will most likely result in him saying "What about when ...." This won't achieve your desired outcome and instead have him on the defensive.

  8. Don't Say "I Hate You"
    Don't say 'I hate you' or other similar things you don't mean. Regardless of how worked up or angry you get don't say things you don't mean, no matter how tempting it is. You can say "I hate it when you do this/say that ..." but don't say you hate them. There may be no going back from that!

  9. Let Bygones be Bygones
    Always remember to stick to the issue at hand and not drag past issues into the argument as that would only make things worse. Not only will it not help resolve the present issues, it can make both parties more emotional and finally lose focus ending the argument with plenty of unresolved issues.

  10. No Name Calling
    Even if you think your partner is the biggest idiot during an argument, resist the urge to tell him so! Using insults is hardly going to get your partner to see your point of view and will likely result in alienating him more. People will remember the names you call them even when the argument has ended.

  11. Rely On Your Own Opinions
    No matter how tempting it is don't bring others into your argument. For example, "My friends hate this about you too." Let your opinions stand on their own. Bringing friends' or families' thoughts into an argument with your partner is not only unfair to him but also to them. It can lead to bigger issues like him feeling resentful towards your friends.

  12. Work Towards a Solution
    If your partner says, "We're not going on dates like we usually do because you're working so hard," you might suggest dates you're available instead of ending up being defensive by giving an angry retort such as, "I work so hard for the family!" Remember to understand the bottom line of an argument - for the previous example, he only wants to spend more time with you and that in a bigger picture is a good thing.

  13. Follow Up
    People don't always say everything they want to say the first time around, so take another pass. Often, the initial argument covers only the leading-edge feeling. If you don't go back and ask if there's anything else, you'll wind up revisiting the issue in another fight down the line.

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Argue Effectively
Incorporate Humor: If an argument look like it's going to turn vicious despite your best efforts, a little silliness may help to diffuse the situation. When you sense tempers rising, don't be afraid to throw in some random goofy comment. For instance: "Hey, wouldn't you rather see my belly button than fight about this?" Unexpected levity will almost always derail the argument from reaching fever pitch, and once you've shared a laugh together, you can move back into discussing the topic at hand with a little more good will towards each other.

Be the Bigger Person: Regardless of who 'wins' try not to let any hard feelings carry over into your relationship with the other person. A mature individual will accept another's point of view without punishing them for making a better argument.

Start sentences with "I": For example "I feel like this..." instead of "You make me feel like this..." Using "I" owns the feelings and doesn't make your partner feel attacked. Using "you" will make your partner feel criticised and responsible for your emotions.


Source:
Beauty & Lace and Psychology Today
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Source : Jusco Pearl magazine

续失眠之后

把帖子粘上之后的一分钟,电话离奇响起
"i need you i need you, more and more and more"
Avril 的铃声……
一点半了,怎么是他,这个笨蛋。
把电脑就这样丢下,跑上楼去了。
所以说,我的猜测是不能相信的…… ^^
信我,都会死…… XD

失眠

深夜,仰在床上读着九把刀的《那些年,我们一起追的女孩》
搁下书,把电话翻开一看,12点半了……
我,想念起他了……
我想,今晚他是不会打来的了。
我口里说着不要成为他的负担,烦了工作,还要定时打给我。
心里,却想敲通电话,说声我想念你……
为什么我就是那么自私,做人那么矛盾。
想让他轻松之余,又想对自己好一些……

犹豫了一下下,把念头delete掉了……
纵使我失眠,也不能让他陪我失眠……

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

22.04.08

冷冷的,像屋外下着的细细小雨
凉凉的,像屋外吹着的徐徐凉风
我稳住了心,不降温,我依然相信

徐徐的风,吹着屋外的大树,雨落下来了...
冷风把我吹凉,我,怎么想哭了呢?

Sunday, April 20, 2008

20.04.08

uh um.... Hehe.... Today woke up at 1pm again...
Thinking of how should i spend this evening...
Then i called him out to watch movie... Hehe...
Guess what?! i watched forbidden kingdom... Wahaha..
Before movie, we went to shop shop in Leisure mall...
I had a Tom Yum and he had a Thai Fried Rice...
Hmm... I prefer CM's tom yum...
Then i bought a set of four 宫崎骏's Comic... cost RM 13.50..
Went in Popular... Found Jimmy's Books are on SALES...
3 for RM68... >< 1 usually cost around RM35++...
I was so excited but don't know should i spend this RM68 or not...
I LOVE THEM much....
I was hesitated for a long time.....
Finally i can't stop myself for buying them...
I think i will regret if i didn't buy them... Haha
Today i spent a lot of money on BOOKS.... ^-^
Books is worth buying rather than Clothes...
This is my side of view... maybe i love books...

Another way, Forbidden kingdom is a really good movie...
But it's a bit non-logically..
If following the Chinese culture and old legend....
But i encourage you all to watch...
Haha.. i had my first time twin seat with him... XD
But.. Nothing special jeh...
Just a bit more COMFORTABLE and more SPACE and more EXPENSIVE LOR~~

昨天Steamboat过后,他把车停放在我家外的一边,
说着他公司的问题,工人的问题,管理的问题,
我听了,在想着什么办法可以帮他解决问题,让他不再头痛……
可是我想不出一个好办法… 怎么说公司里的人际关系不是一两天可以建立的…

今天早上,我却发了一个梦,
梦见我在他公司帮忙,可是却什么都不会做,
还要别人教我做一些很简单的东西… 真没用…(现实中的我也是什么都不会)
过后,他的一个工人不爽了,闹罢工…
我竟然擅自跑向前说:"不做就不做,那这个月工钱也不用给了!!" ==
过后一阵混乱,有一个人(不知道是谁)和那工人妥协了事情,那工人不走了。
然后我竟然抱着那个人哭着感谢他,然后所有人都抱在一堆…… =.=
哈哈…… 奇奇怪怪的梦… 让我睡到中午1点钟…

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Shop again..

Today i went to gai gai with mummy....
destination is JUSCO and ECONSAVE....
B'cause i have to post Foo E's application letter (i have promised him)
after paying pos laju fee, mummy and I Shop inside Jusco... Hehe...
Ohoh... It's so ngam... Jusco Privilege Shopping Day...
Clothes, Shoes have 15% discount for J card holder... XD
Shopping addiction came to my head.... Oh.. STOP...
But i have only bought a T-shirt.. 'cause no nice one...
I want to buy a short pants... but all the size S is SO BIG....
I bought the Tee using Mummy's money.. hee...
This is the benefit when going out with parents... hehe...
The tee i bought is only cost me RM12.75 (After Discount)
Chic Avenue... Wondering why it was so cheap... Good quality also...
Just a simple tee lah... Bought it for my college..

After that, i follow mummy to buy some food and tissue roll...
heard that tissue roll and nescafe are on BIG BIG discount...
'cause mummy buy few packs of nescafe and 2 packs of tissue roll..
she did bought for Grandma and Matt's mother...
We Shun Bian went to Econsave to walk walk...
Mummy helped Matt's mummy to buy some milk and cucumber too.. XD

When I reached home.. then on my msn using mummy's laptop...
Heard Yew said dai lou saw me in Jusco...
Oh... He, Tjc, Pui mun, Kam fai and Yew went to pizza hut today...
but i did not see them.... hehe...
Lucky i did not wear so cincai to jusco....

Steamboat

I had a steamboat dinner in mr lonely's house yesterday night...
It was a boring day in the afternoon... so i "ban leng leng" while waiting MAKAN KING to fetch me...
I wait and wait.... It was early yet... so i decided to have my nail "dress"...
It was so difficult to draw them nicely... I can only finish my left hand because KC had reach my home...
KC had to fetch Matt, Sek sek, Yew Yew and Me.... I was the first one...
I earned a bitter choc (From Japan wor..XD) and Ferrero from Yew...
He owe me... Don't really remember why he owe me...
Just fooling around with him in MSN... then "WAT" him to treat me a choc...
Finally he paid his debt... the bitter choc is not main tipu de..
Really BITTER~~ So i think Sek sek should LOVE it MUCH.. XD

The Preparation of steamboat event start since we have stepped into mr.lonely house..
But we also took sometime to play his piano.. and sek sek had look around his house and trying to meet mr.lonely's sister.... But she failed..
And i still don't understand what is "touchdown" means...
So anyone know it... Please leave me a comment... Thank you..

Preparation done in the 8 30 sharp....
The other Steamboat member have reached too...
My hubby ^^ ,PuiMun, Poh Lim and Ban Heng...
So we start Eating Chatting....
I had a lot of laughter yesterday... How about you?
the night keep going and we keep eating...
We had finish all of the food... So full...
Then we had some simple cleaning...
After that.. we went home around 11++...

Something was wrong within Poh Lim and Ban Heng...
everyone can see... Everyone have her/his difficulty...
We shouldn't and chouldn't interfere in other's relationship..
When i saw Everyone is forcing Poh lim to take Ban heng's car ALONE...
Is there anyone looking at her feeling?
Although i don't really know what was she thinking...
what everyone have seen is ban heng's feeling...
When i saw this situation, i suddenly think of Sek and Dai Lou...
It was the same thing repeating... but different characters and different story...


Thursday, April 17, 2008

Pasar malam trip

Today i went to connaught night market with those girls and boys..
there are m.yee, poh lim, ban heng, k.chang, koh, tae tae and of course ME!
we took a long time to fetch all of them...
because we lost in Tun Husein Onn!! We can't get to Koh's house... funny funny
that's because of koh's taman has a lot of entrance...
We entered in a wrong one... so that we were so confuse... XD

After finish fetching all the boy boy and girl girl...
we straight away "CONG" to connaught...
but as usual, the parking lot are all FULL....
we terpaksa have to park far far away from the night market...

i was so excited to get the things that i want to eat....
i have my own shopping AIM --- Uncle BOB fried chicken chop...
tae and i went thru the night market... searching for Uncle Bob Bob...
there are so many fake fried chicken chop.... Uncle Boss la.. Chicken Chop King la..
(Actually not fake... just another stall of chicken chop)
Teng Teng Teng Teng!!!
Finally----- i found bob bob uncle in the middle of the night market...
I ran to it and got a spicy fried chicken chop... spent me rm4.50..
but it's worth for that... HAHA... the chicken chop is so BIG...
i can't finish it by myself.. so i shared with tae.... nei yat tum ngor yat tum.. ^o^
then continue walk walk walk....
nothing can catch my attraction except the chicken chop in my hands...

we bought a coconut juice and "tao fu fa" after finish the chicken chop..
i am so full.. so tae and i fast fast go back to meet them...
haha... today m.yee and poh lim have became the SHOPPING QUEENS among us....
they shop crazily until forgot the time.... the plastic bags on their hands are uncountable...
They seem so enjoy in that.... haha... seem like i am NOT~ (so proud.. ^o^)

it's 12am++... time past so fast....
i seldom go night market with a gang of friends...
this time is the third or forth time... i think... haha...
Funny day.... so tired.. and so full... ^.^
Night~

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

It's all done

yeah.... finally... it's all done...
today i went to bandar sunway again....
i passed up my offer letter and 1st sem fee...
Oh... bleeding again... my baba's wallet is bleeding...
5k tuition fee.. so sum tong.....
I am a LONG TERM LIABILITY to my daddy... T.T
after that, went to Maybank that next to The One..
Bank in my salary... 2 months salary... Haha...

then then then... again...
my jj, daddy and i had a japanese dinner in sunway piramid.. sakae sushi..
after the delicious dinner, we went to Mdm Lum's house.. (the bao zhou por)
It was a ultra heavy rain... Traffic jam because of flood..
and a tree runtuh in Utar area... Jam Jam Jam...
scary rain and thunder.... looked like the end of the world.. XD
Finally we reached mdm lum's house safely...
wow... her house is sooo Nice and BIG...
a bangaloo in Section 17... Nice... i would like to have a house like hers... @@
then we king king king... the rental given is quite low compared to others..
RM330 a medium room.. quite big room.... for me and my sister..
and she is going to buy us a refrigerator.. so that we can cook...
so.. it's decided.. to rent this one in SS12... opposite metropolitan..
and i have to travel to TOA with my kancil EZ 660cc... :)
don't know why... i felt so happy to have a cute kancil... Haha...
my daddy laughed at me.. said it's so easy to satisfly me... @@

and this few days.. i met a lot of my future schoolmate in CARI forum...
some of them are came from terengganu, kelatan, johor, perak,and N.Sembilan..
I wanted to meet them eagerly.. because i had no body to accompany me...
we are planning to have a gathering in sunway piramid before our orientation...
i'm looking for it... :)

Monday, April 14, 2008

回归

四个月了,我没有碰过方块字...
昨天随手捡起一本书,才发现...
毕业后,我离开了文学广场... 出走了
我的行囊里,没有带着它...
难怪,这四个月里,感觉好空虚..
方块字,被我荒废了...
徒步地走,我想起了它...
我想继续认识它...
夜里漫步地走,
又再一次,我回到了灯火通明的
文字城堡中...

Saturday, April 12, 2008

爱莫能助

短短15分钟电话中,听到他很累的声音,很烦的心情
他每天工作到8点,再带图回家画,画到晚上12点,
而我,每天走街走到8点,带着大包小包回家,回到家上网直到深夜
他每天努力赚钱,我每天努力甩钱....
看到他那么辛苦,我却什么都不明白,什么都帮不上,
好无能为力..... 这叫爱莫能助吧?
刺刺的痛心我感觉得到,无奈什么都做不到
希望烦恼你们别打扰他。

Stop me...

"STOP RIGHT NOW... THANK YOU VERY MUCH~" -stop, spice girls

who can stop me? from shopping-----------------
i am bleeding... my wallet is bleeding....
stop stop stop.... control control... i can control... (deep breathing.. Hu...)
today went to midvalley with k.c, koh and sek sek...
didn't think of buying anything accept pui mun's present..
but at last.... i came home with 3 plastic begs...
spent rm120++ included food and taxi... oh...
spending money like water host....
have to jimat cermat already....
shopping centers are devil!! ><

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Looking for room..

09.04.08... Hehe... Let's get something NEW..

today i went to sunway.. what for? yea... i'm looking for my room...
the room that i have to live in for 3 YEARS...
as usual, i woke up in the late morning... how late... around 11am.. XD
mama woke me up... then, a college counsellor called me..
I never take note of those colleges' name...
the girl was selling the college hard... so i talked to her SOFTLY...
after hang up my phone, my house phone rang..
It's baba calling.. he wanted me to prepare myself in 10 MINUTES
OH.. GOD... i rushed up to the bath room and bath
when i was bathing.. baba reached..
i think i forgot to brush my teeth... XD now i realize... ;(
then, i quickly fed my ely as my mama told me to do that..
after that, i had my journey to look for my ROOM---------

we drive through PJS9, PJS 8, and SS12
and finally we decided to choose one of them either in PJS 9 or SS 12...
PJS 9 is right beside The One Academy...
and SS12 is beside my sister one.. Metropolitan..
and the good news is.. baba is buying me a Kancil.. Haha
although is a kancil.. and manuel one.. but it brings me MY LEGS~~ XD
baba said cars are liabilities... so... no expensive liabilities!
it's okay for me.. because i'm not the paying one... thank you lah.. baba..
20k++... never expect much from baba...
He already gave me the BEST of what he can give... i love u.. daddy

So... we had long negotiations with those Bao zhou por and Bao zhou gong...
About the rate of rental.. about the size of room.. and all that...
I had a Korean lunch and Janpanese dinner today... haha
we checked out the last house in SS12 at the 8pm...
Oh... it's so tiring... and we haven't decide yet...
because we have to discuss with my JJ...
then... finally i came home in 9pm++
and do some PAINTING on my nails... XD
it's nice this time.... ^o^

and.. this few days, i'm playing the "secret" quite hard... but i still cannot master it well..
hmm... looking forward to a shopping and a gathering...
i have to equip myself to welcome my new life in The One Academy...
hmm.. i need a jacket (Forest one)...
need a pair of sport shoes...
need some new T-shirt..
need a bag if possible...
a need some sponsers if anyone see this... XD

hu.. so tiring writting in english...
to brush up my English ma.....
and finally.. koh u have something new to view HERE!! XD
welcome to my blog... :P



p/s : any grammar mistake or other else... Please correct me... And.. Do not Laugh at me... Thank you ^o^

Thursday, April 3, 2008

可爱

我怎么变得那么不可爱了呢?
天真开朗别离开我啊..................